Showing posts with label advice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label advice. Show all posts

Monday, May 14, 2012

Parents Turn to Sleep Counselors [That's my friend Rivky!]



The above clip is from a recent Fox 5 News segment about the increasingly popular use of sleep counselors to help parents and their babies get a good's night sleep. But more than how awesome it is that parents have this unique, gentle and productive option is that it features my friend (and old roommate) Rivky! Oh and her adorable son, Simcha, who is one week older than my youngest son (with whom he needs a play-date with ASAP!)

Kudos to Rivky for refusing to settle for the "Moms don't sleep" status quo! How admirable that she knew she could use some extra help, then pursued it, and is now outspoken and proud of it. 

My favorite part is when Rivky says, "Everyone needs that someone to just push them...[and say] 'You can do it!'" That sort of "co-mama-radery" has been a theme on LadyMama this week, so I just had to salute Rivky as a real-life mom who recognizes the power of support and is doing her utmost to benefit from the mamasphere to raise a healthy, happy baby...and mom! 

Rivky has no idea I am posting this...but maybe if I get an enthusiastic response from her, we'll do a LadyMama interview. I'm sure she's got some good tips for us all! ;) 

Have you ever used a sleep counselor? Do you have any sleep tricks you swear by? What is the most important factor when encouraging good sleep habits? Comment with your thoughts and advice!

For those of us who can use a good chuckle about the status of our sleepless nights, enjoy the cartoons below! 

Wishing all LadyMamas the sleep of their dreams!

GOOD night! Really :) 












Thursday, May 10, 2012

Insights from the Rebbe (In honor of Lag Baomer!)

Today is Lag Baomer! As a LadyMama striving to stay "smart, stylish, spiritual and sane,"  it would be remiss of me not to acknowledge the depth of this joyous day!

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What IS Lag Baomer? (From Chabad.org)
Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai, who lived in the second century of the common era, was the first to publicly teach the mystical dimension of the Torah known as the “Kabbalah,” and is the author of the basic work of Kabbalah, the Zohar. On the day of his passing, Rabbi Shimon instructed his disciples to mark the date as “the day of my joy.”

The chassidic masters explain that the final day of a righteous person’s earthly life marks the point at which “all his deeds, teachings and work” achieve their culminating perfection and the zenith of their impact upon our lives. So each Lag BaOmer, we celebrate Rabbi Shimon’s life and the revelation of the esoteric soul of Torah. (Chabad.org) 


There's much more about Lag Baomer - read on! 


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INSIGHTS FROM THE REBBE 

As a Chabad woman, I am blessed to be surrounded by a community that is enlivened by the wellsprings of Chassidus, the more esoteric understanding of our Torah. More personally, I feel blessed to look to the Lubavitcher Rebbe, who, along with the great lineage that preceded him, started a revolution through his unmatched teachings (and campaigns) that gave forth to an enormous movement that is changing the world as we know it through unbridled joy, action, education and true love of G-d's people. 

To honor this day, I decided to do what I can to spend a few moments reconnecting with the Rebbe's voice. Below are some quotes and insights from the Rebbe that remain just as empowering and relevant today as they were then, over 17 years ago. They all reflect a mindset that, as I know it, truly burst forth through the Chabad Rabbeim's unrivaled commitment to spreading the inner dimension of Torah. 

May the Rebbe's important reminders guide us as women, wives, mothers...and humans! 

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PEACE
In these critical times, when nations are challenging one another, and violence is increasing in an unbelievable manner; the Jews have the power, to bring about peace in the entire world.


 LOVE
When there is love of G-d but not love of Torah and love of Israel, this means that the love of G-d is also lacking. On the other hand, when there is love of a fellow Jew, this will eventually bring also a love of Torah and a love of G-d.

For just as this last exile was caused by a lack of brotherly love, so shall the final and immediate Redemption be achieved by love for one's fellow.



CHALLENGING TIMES
When a person is uprooted from his habitual environment... there come to light certain traits of his inner character as they are in their purity, undistorted by the expectations of society. Often, these traits reveal the hidden good in this person, of which perhaps even he himself had been unaware, because they were hidden under the layers of “manners” and social conventions. Fortunate is the person who does not allow these traits to disappear when he subsequently settles down and finds tranquility.




OUTREACH
In order to truly influence a fellow, we must devote ourselves to him or her without regard to whether s/he will be influenced or not. He is a fellow human being who needs your help. So help him. If she lacks something material, help her. If she is spiritually lost, help her. Many see the point of influencing a fellow Jew to do a good deed, a mitzvah -- to put on tefillin, to perform a single act of charity, to avoid a moral transgression -- if this leads to a greater involvement, and ultimately, a complete transformation. But when confronted with a "lost case" they feel it's a waste of time. Why bother?
Why bother? Because you care about him, not only about what he ought to be, what he will be, or what you see in him. He lacks something now, and you are privileged to be of assistance. If you care for him because you expect to influence him, then chances are he won't respond. But if you care for him whether he responds or not, then he will respond. 


LIGHT
A little light dispels a lot of darkness. 



WOMEN
The woman, too, has a role that extends beyond the home, extends also to the most alien of daughters and the most pagan of lands. A woman who has been blessed with the aptitude and talent to influence her sisters can, and must, be an “outgoer,” periodically leaving her haven of holiness to reach out to those who have lost grounding and
 direction in their lives.


THE HOME
Of course, the purpose of a vessel is that it be filled with content; the purpose of a home is that it be inhabited. The Sanctuary was built to house the presence of G-d. 
But it is the making of vessels for G-dliness that is life's greatest challenge and its most revolutionary achievement


POWER OF JOY
Therefore we must increase in light, and not just any light, but specifically the light of simchah (joyousness). Since simchah "breaks all boundaries and limitations," it breaks through the person's limitations, the limitations of this world, and the limitations imposed by this dreadful darkness

TIME

G-d did more than make us creatures in time: He also empowered us to contemplate its limits and even experience a semblance of "timelessness" in our daily lives.



AGING
The promise of a "happy retirement" is a cruel myth: the very nature of human life is that man knows true happiness only when creatively contributing to the world he inhabits. The weakened physical state of old age (or illness, G-d forbid) is not a sentence of inactivity, but a challenge to find new--and superior--venues of achievement.



REDEMPTION
When the Father sees that the son is no longer seeking Him… then the exile truly begins. For as long as the son is searching for the Father, as long as the search for Redemption occupies the son, this constitutes a preparation, a beginning, and a spark of the redemption. 



Wishing you and yours a joyous Lag Baomer! 

May the deep light of Torah permeate our beings 
and radiate our hearts and homes! 





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Thursday, June 23, 2011

Crying It Out (Chana Lew's Personal Rant)

By Chana Lew 
Chana Lew is a mother to 5 sons, 2 daughters and 1 husband - and working on growing up herself. Loves: self-respect, all things birth, informed choice & fresh, clean food. More at www.chanalew.com


CRYING IT OUT

(MY PERSONAL RANT)



I'm continuously disturbed by parents who allow their children to 'cry it out'. For those not familiar, this is a method used for teaching babies to sleep. Baby is placed in the crib and kissed good night. Lights go out, doors are shut, baby screams. There are different variations that include parents coming back into the room after 5 minutes, then 10 minutes, 20 minutes, etc. Baby usually is asleep by the time they reach an hour. The second night takes 1/2 hour, the third night (or so) baby knows that crib means sleep and doesn't fight the process. Some parents actually stay in the room but will not take their babies out of the crib.

Monday, December 13, 2010

Drowsy or Drugged?

Drowsy or Drugged?

By Juliya Sheynman


"We thought we were doomed to spend 6 hours apologizing for the 
repeated shrieking, tear bursting wails of a new walker..."


So I have a dilemma. We're boarding a six hour flight soon for our first, but definitely annual, trip to Seattle. It's 3,000 miles and hundreds of passengers between the seats and the sanity of my husband, my one year old and myself.

We've heard that Benadryl can be a great help in easing the babes flight experience and the parents blood pressure - so we wanted to give it a test run before the flight. Couple weeks ago, "M" got a 1/4 teaspoon of delicious (though her face said otherwise) cherry flavored Benadryl. Then we sat and stared at her, waiting to see if our babe was one that goes a little koo koo or catches her zzzzzs with the elixir.

At first, we thought she was for sure drugged - babbling, laughing, kicking like a little rockette. We thought we were doomed to spend six hours apologizing for the repeated shrieking, tear bursting wails of a new walker. But then, a little eye rubbing action gave us a glimmer of hope.

Three minutes of rocking, and babe was out cold in drowsy dream land.

So we soon take our flight, and I only pray we can recreate this magical experience. Do we try it and hope for the best? What experience have you had with your little monkey...drowsy or drugged?



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Juliya Sheynman is a marketing professional with most of her experience working with Jewish non-profits. A first time Mama - constantly Googling everything from weight average for infants to croupy coughs and colored poopies - she now shares her Mamale questions and dilemmas on LadyMama.