Still Crying It Out [Chana Lew's Follow Up]

By Chana Lew 
Chana Lew is a mother to 5 sons, 2 daughters and 1 husband - and working on growing up herself. Loves: self-respect, all things birth, informed choice & fresh, clean food. More at www.chanalew.com

"None of us “have an hour” to put our babies to sleep, but putting a baby to 

sleep is part of being a parent and sometimes it takes longer than we like."

STILL CRYING IT OUT

While I agree that there is more than one way to put a baby to sleep, I don’t believe in not responding to a baby’s attempt to communicate.   


Ignoring your child is wrong. Period.
I have ‘successfully’ ferberized some of my own, and I feel terrible about it. It goes against the grain of parental instincts. Why didn't I listen to my inner voice that said "pick your baby up!" I convinced myself that it was "for his own good." I believed that someone else knew better. I fell victim to a decision made out of desperation. Those children did sleep through the night earlier, but I believe there are long term ramifications.

Mom Shot #14: You CAN always get what you want

He was screaming "miiiiiiiilk, miiiiiiilk!" for quite some time, but I was determined to have him sit and eat the cheerios, too. 

But he was more determined. He actually handpicked every single cheerio out of the bowl and then downed the milk. Exactly what he wanted. 

Point taken, kid.

Listen up, parents. Our children are resilient and, as frustrating as that is (and I mean reeeaallly frustrating), acknowledge their inventiveness. They know exactly how to get what they want from life, and no one - not even mommy - will stand in the way. 

Cheerio! ;)

Bringing Light To Your Face

By Ettel Chava Rosenbaum

Chava is a 26 year old mother of two girls living in Kensington, NY.  She has been a practicing makeup artist for nearly seven years and recently began doing makeup for the exploding field of religious women's theater...in which she also loves to perform! Chava offers lessons to women, teaching them how to apply their own makeup like a professional. In addition to makeup, her passions are singing, comedy and keeping her kids out of her shoe rack. Chava is available to do makeup for simchas and productions in New York. You can contact her to book a consultation or job by e-mailing beautybychava@rocketmail.com

BRINGING LIGHT TO YOUR FACE 

Nothing is as flattering to the face as candlelight. It illuminates the center of the face bringing it in focus, with a diffusing glow that diminishes blemishes, and brings out the contours. Everyone sparkles in candlelight. 


If you have a special occasion, a summer wedding perhaps, you can give yourself that candlelit soft focus even if there are no candles present. 


What You Need:
All you need is a shimmery highlighter, either a cream or a powder. A highlighting powder can be a sheer highlighting eye shadow in a glowing shade like pale gold or champagne. Cream highlighters come in many forms, but if you don't have one, simply use a sheer foundation two shades lighter than you're skin. If you're using a cream, use your ring finger to apply it. If you prefer powder, use a fluffy shading brush.

How To Apply:Gently tap the cream or dust the powder into the inner parts of your cheeks, from the sides of the nose, blended out to the middle to the apple, a bit at the bridge of the nose, the chin, corners of the mouth and between the eyebrows. Also blend from the inner corners of the eyes, lightly down to the inner cheeks. 


It should just be a slight glow, not too much and well blended. In the dim lights of a simcha hall it will look stunning! And this look is especially perfect for photos! 

Vogue does strictly Orthodox fashion [thejc.com]

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By Jessica Elgot, June 23, 2011

Vera Wang: Should be less figure hugging

They may not often grace the pages of Vogue, but strictly Orthodox women regularly reinterpret celebrity and catwalk fashion - with a modest twist, according to research by the London College of Fashion.

Chassidic women have interpreted mainstream fashion trends such as knitwear with embellished shoulder detail, ruffles, 60s-style pill box hats and evening dresses tempered with white shirts to cover a plunging neckline. Sheitls have trendy wispy fringes, or swinging ponytails with girly bows.

Speakers at last week's London College of Fashion symposium on 'Mediating Modesty' spoke of detailed research they had conducted into frum fashion.


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LadyMama in the Jewish Standard!

http://www.jstandard.com/supplement/item/19207

Check out LadyMama Mimi Hecht on the cover of The Jewish Standard's "About Our Children" magazine! Click on the link to check out the article and read about LadyMama and some other fab mama bloggers!

Mom Shot #13: Stroller Envy

When I found this gorgeous Stokke parked right in front of my Uppa the other day, I had to stop and check it out up close. It's a stroller that always grabs my attention because of its sleek structure, high seat and overall modern (almost futuristic) design.
It kinda makes me feel like my stroller is mediocre, even though I chose it from tons of research and, well, the trend.
The names of these strollers lend themselves to a very real lesson: something will always UP(ppa) our choices and put us to shame no matter how STOK(ke)D we were about out own decision ;)
And the truth is, in the end we're all the same in that we paid way, way too much.

Crying It Out (Chana Lew's Personal Rant)

By Chana Lew 
Chana Lew is a mother to 5 sons, 2 daughters and 1 husband - and working on growing up herself. Loves: self-respect, all things birth, informed choice & fresh, clean food. More at www.chanalew.com

CRYING IT OUT

(MY PERSONAL RANT)

I'm continuously disturbed by parents who allow their children to 'cry it out'. For those not familiar, this is a method used for teaching babies to sleep. Baby is placed in the crib and kissed good night. Lights go out, doors are shut, baby screams. There are different variations that include parents coming back into the room after 5 minutes, then 10 minutes, 20 minutes, etc. Baby usually is asleep by the time they reach an hour. The second night takes 1/2 hour, the third night (or so) baby knows that crib means sleep and doesn't fight the process. Some parents actually stay in the room but will not take their babies out of the crib.

Mom Shot #12: Look Around

I remember when my son first saw Elmo off-screen. He literally stood there staring at this Elmo doll, his mouth dropped, finger pointing, with an audible, breathy "huuuuuughhhh!"

Have you ever been shocked to find your favorite friend/food/movie/store in an odd place? We can learn from our children - everything we love is all around us. We just have to open our eyes! 

10 Reasons To Love Being a Jewish Woman

By Mimi Hecht

10 Reasons To Love Being a Jewish Woman

1. Any time a man attempts to interfere in our role, we simply say “No, no, no. That’s my territory! God said so. Just look it up.” 

2. There are enormous stereotypes that validate all the guilt we live with. 

3. We actually make our kids Jewish. So there’s one dependable thing they are and always will be...simply because we are their mother. 

4. There are an abundance of places, events and privileges that are “For Women Only.” And I mean more than that one-hour at the JCC swimming pool. From socials to lectures, we are a part of a truly connected and celebrated elite club. 

5. The Mikvah system forces us to have that spa-like deep cleaning we would otherwise never find time or energy for. The good thing is, it’s the kind of appointment nobody can make us reschedule. 

6. At the end of every week, we host dinner parties to show off all our prowess in the kitchen. It’s called Shabbat, and even though it’s not exactly a Day of Rest for us, we still love it.

7. Every Friday night, our men sing a song praising us as “Women of Valour.” They look at us and smile in love and appreciation. Even if the song is more of a metaphor and, um, actually addressed to God, we still get to enjoy the hullabaloo. 

8. We have awesome role models in our Biblical matriarchs. Sarah had four doors on each side of her tent to draw in guests of all kinds. Rivkah maintained her identity while being raised in an immoral environment. With heroes like that, we’re practically a lost cause. But at least an inspired lost cause. 

9. For the Orthodox amongst us, when we get married, everyone incessantly compliments our hair. It’s almost like by the very fact that it’s not our own real tresses, we must look “uhhmaayyyyzeeng.” It certainly makes all the sheitel-trauma worth it as we “wig-gle” our way to our ideal look. 

10. And finally, we love how our religion is always revealing the spirituality in everything we do. We can’t light a candle, talk to our husbands or cook for Shabbos without it being Larger Than Life. We constantly feel like superhumans. Or better yet, Goddesses. Ya, that’s right, Goddesses.

Do you relate to this list?
What do YOU love about being a Jewish woman? Comment with your additions!

Summer Makeup: How to keep it from melting

By Ettel Chava Rosenbaum

Chava is a 26 year old mother of two girls living in Kensington, NY.  She has been a practicing makeup artist for nearly seven years and recently began doing makeup for the exploding field of religious women's theater...in which she also loves to perform! Chava offers lessons to women, teaching them how to apply their own makeup like a professional. In addition to makeup, her passions are singing, comedy and keeping her kids out of her shoe rack. Chava is available to do makeup for simchas and productions in New York. You can contact her to book a consultation or job by e-mailing beautybychava@rocketmail.com

Mention LadyMama when you book me for any occasion and get a 20% discount on TWO faces(including the Kallah's). And as usual, kallahs get a free trial! Spread the word! Call me at 718-986-1211.

Summer Fun With Makeup

How to keep your makeup for melting off your face in the humidity!

We all know the feeling, especially if you're in New York. The air is soupy in the summer months and makeup doesn't stand much of a chance. So how do you keep it on?

Rule number one: the less there is in the first place, the less that can come off. Keep the look simple and light so there is less weight. For example, most people don't need a daily foundation in general, so to even out your skintone and protect your skin from damage use a tinted moisturizer instead of foundation. It absorbs into the skin rather than sitting on it, so it won't come off as fast.

Great tip: Don't have tinted moisturizer? No problem. Mix some of your mineral powder or liquid moisturizer into your regular moisturizer to get your desired level of tint and apply with sponge or fingers.

Tacky cheeks from moisturizer, or sweat or oil, can make your blush stick to your skin as you apply it and streak. To avoid this, dust a thin veil of colorless translucent powder on first so your blush with have a dry even surface to blend onto.

Great tip: Coral blush is the must-have color this summer and its looks great on everyone! Coral is like peachy pink but brighter, more tropical looking and leaning more towards the pink side than orange.

Eyes can be tough durring the summer. Lids get oily, you sweat, mascara smears, liner melts...

Mom Shot #11: Size doesn't matter

Here are two of my sons current favorites, which I make sure to set aside when I clean up his toys. If this were real life, this dog would be considered obese, the horse anorexic. It's a good thing that when it comes to our kids, size - and realistic proportions! - is a non issue!

My Daycare Journey

By Mimi Hecht

 "Working from home with an adventurous and constantly hungry

 toddler is akin to riding a boat on pavement - it just doesn't happen."

MY DAYCARE JOURNEY

So how exactly did I know it was time to send my first child into the world of daycare? How did I realize I was ready for the next stage of his barely two-year-old life, sending him off every day into some other woman's competent arms?

In short, I was going nuts. 

There, I said it. I know, I know - that's not exactly a feel-good explanation, not a thought-out analyzation of his little-man needs. I was just losing my mind. You see, I'm not a stay-at-home mom. I mean, I definitely do stay at home, hardly ever putting on makeup or any other shoe wear but slippers. But it's not because I belong to the noble group of women who dedicate all their days towards caring for and occupying their little ones at home. It's because I work from home. And let me tell you, working from home with an adventurous and constantly hungry toddler is akin to riding a boat on pavement - it just doesn't happen. Every time I would sit at the computer to work, my 20-month old would think I was starting "Elmo" or "Eli" from Mitzvah Boulevard. When he kvetched and shrieked his way into my lap only to discover a boring document of "ABCs," the scream got louder. The result? No work. Just lot's of puppets.

Too fat for the OB?

Some ob-gyns in South Florida turn away overweight women

 In a nation with 93 million obese people, a few ob-gyn doctors in South Florida now refuse to see otherwise healthy women solely because they are overweight.

[Read full article here]